Janus

Why is it so hard to find somebody? I know it is a pretty basic question but I think that has been asked by the majority of us at one time or another. I get panicked some times; it feels almost like if I don't find someone soon, my options will decrease exponentially and by the time I reach my 30's - 40's, the only single men will be broken, gay, or undergoing some sort of crisis - and I know that I cannot be the only woman out there that feels this way...am I? I wonder if the opposite sex experiences the same thought? However when I ponder the likelihood of that, it seems so far fetched and on the verge of comical. Dismissive and offensive, maybe, but can you blame me for thinking that way? How many times have we seen men in the public eye cheat, lie, and celebrate avoiding any sort of commitment? I know that this thought completely contradicts some of my other views regarding commitment/fidelity and yes, I know it seems as though I have no idea as to what I want when it comes to relationships involving the opposite sex but that is not the case...at least not to my knowledge. I know that sooner or later I want a relationship, but I want one when it feels appropriate - I feel rushing into anything, ESPECIALLY a relationship, is only a means to a jaded and bitter end. But at the time, I do not want my own personal phobias and discomforts to leave me with little to no options. Is this thinking rational or am I being too high maintenance?